Do you Need to have an Attractive Identity to Attract Girls?

Today, there is something I like to talk about that is holding a lot of guys back from bettering their dating life. There are a lot of guys I know who aren't good with women, and they make the excuse saying, "I don't have a strong identity."

For me, I don't just restrict myself to one identity but have multi-identities I go by that various women would stereotype as attractive by my fashion and my hobbies and interests, but I still need perform that identity's role through my "sociability" to get the girl.

Sociability is your competence, skills, and mojos used in social gatherings. Ask yourself this, "Do you honestly think just having a strong identity is going to magically make you good with women Having that strong identity is a label, which consciously makes you perform in a way to fulfill that identity's role, but that doesn't mean you will perform that role consistently.

Just because you have the title of a doctor, doesn't necessary mean you are an effective doctor. In reality, it works the other way around. You were given the title of a doctor because you went through school and spent endless hours studying until you became really good at it.

The excuse of telling yourself that I only need to have a strong identity, then I can start deserving and get good with women is counter-productive. Let go and let yourself get the girl. What you really need is to start getting out there as much as possible meeting women and acquire the skills, instead of waiting to claim that identity or for it to just magically fall into your lap. That is why you have to have the skills under your belt to back up that identity...then you will congruently communicate that to the girls you're trying to attract.

About the Author

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.