You're just a Tool to the other Person?
There is no worse feeling of betrayal when you find out somebody who seems like you have a great relationship is only using you because they want something.
What does it really require to have an authentic connection?
Well, in any type of relationship, either that is having a girlfriend, friends or even anybody, there has to be an exchange of value.
When one person is giving away more value than is being given back, they will feel taken advantage of; and those who are leeching those values without reciprocating any value in return, are value-cravers; they always want something from other people, and that is the only driving force they want to be around you.
However the thing is, if you don't have any value to offer them, they will likely discard you.
The thing to make sure whoever is in your life isn't using you, offer value that is slightly higher than what they are giving you back.
If they aren't offering any value back at all, just give them slightly higher than nothing, and don't expect them to get more than that when they make a request. That's the threshold you set.
Usually the prominent signs you can tell if these people are value-cravers, who constantly crave for things without returning any favor when needed in the future, is that they tend to be unreliable and unreciprocal. When you finally need them, they disappear from you and only show up when you have value to give and want some of that value.
We're all familiar with how somebody was using somebody else because they have more money and connections, and those are tangible values; however, the most universal ideal values are intangible, the positive exchange of emotional values.
Now, if you don't possess any asset or tangible values they're seeking, but people really enjoy and love being around you because you generate this positive energy and that you offer great stimuli to them making them feel great, they will want you around.
About the Author
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
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